Monday, 10 March 2014

An Ikea Experience


Fourteen of us flat-packed into a lift
barely enough room for us all, more claustrophobic than cosy
all silently watching the floor numbers counting upwards
as if the only way to ensure we reach the correct destination is to monitor that meter mutely
and just like the delivery of a new dining suite we all disembark at the same floor
leaving the lift lacking and empty

except for a child’s shoe.
(There’s always some small part left over after assembly.)


Mark Chimes

Saturday, 8 March 2014

A new wind blowing

There was this Greek guy called Aesop who became famous for a whole lot of pithy sayings, one of which was, "The little grapes are the sweetest". 

Life is made up of big things and little things. I don't know about you but my life has probably been 20% big things and 80% little. If we live by just the big things, then there is a whole lot of life we miss out on. And upon reflection, oft times, the joy in the small things is just as good as in the big events.

I've just moved to Kleinton. It's not really Toowoomba, but it's so close, and I've lived in Toowoomba for so long, I'm still going to be calling myself a Toowoomba boy.

One of the little things I discovered about Kleinton is that there is almost always a breeze blowing. This is not a startling revelation. It's not worthy of a comment on the evening news. It's not even something I would normally mention in conversation, let alone in a blog post. 

Maybe it's because moving house this week has been one of those big events in life. The days have been filled with cleaning, packing and unpacking, moving furniture, looking for lost items, moving more furniture, finding treasured items broken, discovering things thought to have been lost in a previous move, feeling exhausted from dawn to dusk and by the time it hits mid-afternoon the day already seems to have exceeded its 24 allotted hours. It's right then that the cool breeze has been very welcome indeed.

Regardless of where you live (even if you have the misfortune of not living in Toowoomba) make sure you take notice of the small things that happen around you. They very well may be the things that get you through the big thing that is transpiring in your life right now.

The child-bride is calling. Apparently there is more furniture that needs to be moved.

Monday, 3 March 2014

Moving house

My parents have owned the same house for over 54 years. Think about that for a moment. When was the last time you moved house? How many times have you moved in your adult life? 

Two years ago, they realised that somewhere in the near future there might be a possibility that they would begin to need some assistance. Their house is a big old Queenslander and upkeep of the yard and building was starting to become too much for them both. So, we started making plans to take them in under our roof.


Now there are a number of things that are fairly obvious to anyone making these kinds of decisions. For example, my parents wanted to maintain their own living space and their own car. My mother loves to cook, and she is a quilter of some note, so it was important for her that these activities could be maintained. In other words, they wanted to retain their own independence. These were simple matters to agree upon, and while the pragmatic implementation of some of these things took a little discussion, in the main they provided no hindrance to progress. 


We started looking for suitable homes that could house two separate family units. We saw many that might have been suitable. Most would require some minor alterations, but that presented no problem to us either. As time went by, it looked like my parents were having second thoughts about moving in with us.  When I raised this with them, they assured me that they were still keen to proceed. I finally realised that this "reluctance" was not about the new house.


It was all about leaving the old.


Despite my assurances that they could, would and should remain independent as  long as they felt comfortable, leaving the house that had been the family home for over 54 years was similar to a death in the family. There was a process of leaving and separation that could not occur over just a few days or even weeks. And like the five stages of grief we all go through with the death of a close friend or family member, time needed to be given so that this process could be properly dealt with. Leaving the family home meant that a time of grieving and reconciliation was needed so this season of my parent's life could be completed properly.


We are all faced with decisions that a sometime unpalatable to us. Sometimes, the harder the decision, the longer we take to make it. I'm not just talking about procrastination. Procrastination will rarely change the decision once it is made. But sometimes we need time to allow our heart and soul to catch up with the decision the brain has already made. This is not to say that the decision was hasty, but it's our heart that grieves, not our brain. Even when the decision is a good one, and the fruit of that decision is eagerly anticipated, there can still be a need for comfort and solace over the necessary cessation of long-held habits and views.


Possessing sturdy resolve and never ones to allow a little pain to hinder necessary progress, today my parents move from the old home to the new one. Already they are involved in decisions over shrubs and gardens, tools and sheds, wall colours and curtains. And because they took the time and meditated on all the various aspects of the wonderful life the old home had hosted, and because they have concluded this season appropriately and with deliberation, they have a very good life ahead of them.



Saturday, 1 March 2014

Storm brewing over Yugildah

I took this photo late Friday afternoon as storm clouds gathered overhead. Yugildah was built in 1903 and is the only remaining example of a triple gabled Queenslander in Toowoomba. I have been told that a local guided tour of the city includes a drive up Godsall street to view this masterpiece. The grandeur of the house never really impacted any one of us in the family. It was just 'home'.




My parents move from the family home this week-end, after 54 years. Fifty-four years filled with laughter and tears, joy and sadness, triumph and tragedy.  There has been much sadness over the last two years as they came to grips with the inevitability of their leaving. There's been excitement too as they looked forward to a new, more comfortable home. And this week-end they leave in triumph, knowing that in this house they successfully raised seven children and hosted many, many more. 


So many more in fact that the one thing we lacked when I grew up was enough chairs to seat everybody. It always seemed necessary for two or three to sit on the floor. In the October before Suzanne and I married, my mother averaged sixteen people for every meal that month, and we were usually light on for breakfast. Do the maths and you will understand why evening meal time at the Chimes' was an exciting, rowdy time where you needed to be involved in three or four conversations at once if you were to hold your own.


The was an occasion where one visitor burst into tears during the evening meal. Apparently our conversation about smoking affecting your genes had been punned into a second conversations about fashion jeans. This poor unsuspecting guest had become completely confused and thought someone at the table was suggesting she should not be wearing jeans because they would stunt her growth. It took us some time to piece the tangential train of thought together; and even longer to assuage our visitor's distress.


Those days are long gone of course, but over the past two years I have spoken to many former visitors. To a person they all have fond memories of their stay, regardless of how brief. (Although there were some whom we thought would never leave!)


Investing in personal possessions was not something my parents every taught my siblings and me. Investment in emotional connections and personal relationships was considered far more important. So as they leave this week-end, there will not be a single thought given to what will become of the house after they go. The treasure-trove of memories they hold dear of the acquaintances and loved-ones that have filled the last 54 years is so large there is no room for thought of mere possessions.



Wednesday, 26 February 2014

The Biscuit Barrel

The old hall of old Mrs Chimes' very old house is not particularly grand.  Although by the standards enlisted in today's modern abodes where a tiny alcove is trumpeted as a grand foyer by real estate agents, said hall is indeed imposing. Compared with more regal efforts, however, it would go completely unnoticed, for it was just a hall as was typical in its day.

It is about twelve feet long and barely four feet wide, so it's physical dimensions garner no enquiry. Half way along its right wall is a door that leads to the main bedroom. On the left wall is another door that leads to a second bedroom, (there being another two further within the house).

Immediately after the left door, is a low bookcase that runs the length of the hall. It has only two rows of shelving, and while the books contained within those shallow rows are eclectic and cover a very wide literary taste, they are remarkable only in the fact that they are unremarkable.

Hanging on the wall opposite is a framed copy of a Dorothy McKeller poem, learnt parrot-fashion by every child that attended an Australian school in the 1960's.

On the heavy front door, made of some indeterminate dark hardwood, painted so many times that the original wood grain will never see the light of day again, hangs a large brass knocker that thunders the arrival of every guest, unsolicited salesman, and Girl Guide selling cookies to the home’s inhabitants.

When this door is opened to an adult, their first impression of the hall is one of tidiness, quiet style, and perhaps a hint of musty history.  They glance around and see nothing remarkable. The eyes of many fall upon the very large, very heavy family bible that records, not only the holy scriptures in that most faithful of dialects, the Old King James English, but the improbable yet equally true names of children long since abiding in their own homes.

All of this serves as no indication of the import of this habitat, nor does it provide any assistance to warn the guest of what many of them indeed miss.

When the front door is opened to a child, whether attended by an adult or not, there is one additional item residing in this hall that sooner or later never fails to draw its younger victims into its clutches. It is this very item that provides this old hall in old Mrs Chimes' very old house a status of at least great desire, if not downright awe.

Sitting on top of the bookcase, trying to be obscure, right beside the very large, very heavy family bible is a small biscuit barrel. Made in the days when biscuits were small and only eaten by ladies and well-to-do gentlemen, biscuit barrels in general were used to present biscuits to guests who visited the house. The styles, colours, shapes and presentations were as varied as the cooked delights that resided within. This one never held a place of honour when it was used for its original, intended purpose. It did its job no better, or worse, than thousands of its brethren the world over.

It looked like it was made of fine bone china, bleached-bones white, but it was not. It looked like it was painted in the blue style of the Royal Doulton bamboo landscapes, but it was not. It looked like its handles and lid were made from electroplated nickel silver, a very common look. It was, in fact, sterling silver, but even this gives no indication of the real value of this lurking artefact.

When the keen-eyed child lifts the lid, a feat certain to be attempted regardless of how observant any accompanying adult may be, an Aladdin's Cave of treasures is revealed. In what proves on subsequent visits (Oh! What joy!) to be an inexhaustible supply, the contents of the humble biscuit barrel prove to be better than treasure.

Stiff, fragrant musk sticks, liquorice all-sorts, liquorice logs, chocolate-coated liquorice bullets, chocolate-coated peanuts, chocolate-coated almonds. Sugar-coated almonds; shiny, red, chocolate Jaffa balls, chocolate kisses, chocolate squares. Jelly snakes in an assortment of colours. Aniseed jelly-rings, their sugary coating glinting in the light. Minties wrapped in paper, bulls-eyes, cats-eyes, striped jawbreakers, and fruit jubes. The array and variety seems endless and the supply inexhaustible.

No adult eye is fast enough to see the lightning-fast acquisition of a tasty morsel or two. No adult hand is speedy enough to provide effective defence or hindrance to wave after wave of attack. No adult stomach can cope with the quantity of sheer sugary sweetness that is so quickly consumed from the depths of the barrel's largess.  Indeed many an adult, having become aware of the barrel's presence and purpose, find restraint a futile notion.

Hospitality is effective, the blessing often a surprise, and memories are long - very long. For I have seen visitors, who have not graced the hall with their presence for many years, eagerly look for this little biscuit barrel upon their return. I have heard conversations expounding the hospitality of the old home, focus their enthusiastic support upon this small container, and I have seen grown men reminisce over the particular delectables that graced their day from the offerings of the humble barrel.

So this old hall in old Mrs Chimes' very old house stands indeed in the company of greatness.

Published to honour 53 years of living in "Godsall Street" by Dudley & Ina Chimes and family.